Now that OWN reality stars Martell and Melody Holt are divorced, Melody can give a different perspective on why she says she stayed in her marriage for so long. the Love and Marriage: Huntsville The star says that a lack of self-respect played a huge role in her decision to stay. He now says that staying with her ex was the biggest betrayal for her and her children.
Melody explains why staying with Martell was the biggest betrayal for her and her children
Martell was engaged in a seven-year extramarital affair with Ariona Curry during his 14-year marriage to Melody. he and her lover they eventually had a child together, with Melody filing for divorce shortly before the baby news with Curry was confirmed. Their divorce was finalized in 2021, and they share custody of his four children.
Since then, Melody has said that staying in the marriage was the ultimate betrayal for her and her children. She says that it caused great damage that she has since had to heal from.
“I had to forgive myself for not loving myself enough because if I had loved myself the way I should have and respected myself enough, I never would have given myself so many opportunities to betray myself or be a huge disappointment,” she said. she told a fan during a recent instagram live.
She also says that it affected the way she interacted with her children. “A lot of times, you harden your heart because you don’t want to hurt anymore, and every time that happens, you don’t get to choose when you harden your heart and when you don’t. So everyone and everyone who comes in contact with you during that time will gain a piece of that hardened heart. So when it comes to my children, looking back, there were times when, because she was so broken and hurt, I didn’t show as much emotion or physical connection as I should have,” she added.
She says that she will never take Martell back.
While Martell has been open about a possible reconciliation one day, Melody has clarified that it’s not in the cards. She says that she gave him enough chances in marriage.
“That’s not something I’m interested in, I would never be interested in [getting back with Martell]he told Dr. Heavenly Kimes in a youtube interview. “He would literally die alone before being with Martell. And I’m not saying that… I don’t want you to think I’m trying to be mean about it, but it’s the honest truth from God.”
Melody explained that due to Martell’s constant disrespect, even after their breakup, she doesn’t trust him. “When a person does so much and shows you his character, shows you his lack of morals, integrity and things like that, why would you want to be with someone like that? It’s just nothing that crosses my mind. It’s honestly not like that,” she said.
He says he regrets how he handled things in his marriage.
Martell has admitted his extreme regret for causing the end of his marriage. Despite that, he has made conflicting statements, pointing out that he was not satisfied sexually, and that is the reason he dated. Still, he wishes he had done things differently. He said on an Instagram live:
I would have accepted certain things that my wife was not doing. Some of my complaints, I could have held out a little longer before taking matters into my own hands because we were such a great couple, almost like a perfect couple. We both got busy and I started complaining about things like that and I feel like if I would have accepted certain things, because when I look back now it’s like, ‘Damn, it wasn’t that serious,’ but when you’re in the moment [it feels otherwise]. You have this amazing marriage and these amazing kids and you’re about to ruin everything.
Whether he regrets it or not, he has apparently moved on. Martell is currently dating rhoa star, Sheree Whitfield.